As a therapist your job is to cast doubt on peoples judgments of their failings, your job is to call into question all the times they give themselves a hard time, you bring their attention to the things they do well, you look for and consider things the client has never thought of that they do well. You job as a therapist is to see the problem in a way so that their problem is a gift.
There’s tons of bad things that happens to people in life, giantism, a miscarriage, murder, depression, anxiety, agrophobia, trauma episodes, major traum, eating disorders, everything bad comes your way, your job is to show the client how this is actually good for them because it reminds them they have to make a change in their life in their behavior for the better.
Giantism, reality is not what we would like to be, and every problem is different, and embrace life because it’s a hell of a ride, miscarriage, it’s super painful and I’ll never know that pain and I’m sorry, but you have to keep going, it’s painful but you have to keep going, depression you have to make yourself get out of bed and be apart of the world, you have to be more active in the world, that’s the only way your problems get solved unless it’s organic, then otherwise you have to do everything you can do, anxiety, ramp up your anxiety to the worst and lay down and let it happen, do it enough, you can handle it, major trauman,you gotta break it down into separate parts, then deal with it, eating disorders, well you gotta break that down also into smaller parts.
Sometimes in life you have overwhelming problems to deal with, so the way you deal with them is you slice them in half, and then you slice them in half again and you keep breaking them down into smaller problems until eventually their small enough that you now what to do.
If a problem is too hard for you , you always break it down into smaller and smaller pieces.