Personal Responsibility and Change

_ One of the biggest things I have to deal with as an agent of change is to teach people that for the most part how they think and they feel is within their control.  The problem today with the field of psychology is that people can get assigned all sorts of psychiatric labels and from that they relinquish control and responsibility for how they think and feel.  In some ways I feel the field of Psychology gives people an excuse to feel helpless.  To say that someone has a chemical imbalance in the brain is taken as evidence for why their life should be screwed up until the day they die.  Personally I just can buy the idea that if I have a problem that I am stuck with it.  And in a lot of ways that is what fueled my studies through the years the unrelenting belief that things could get better and that I could change and as I moved through the world and found that this was true. 

I began to work with other people and I found that even worse case scenarios could get better and that for the most part the cases that were given up on as impossible were the cases in which people had tried all they could and just couldn’t figure out a way to fix the problem.  But it didn’t mean they tried out all ways that would work.  There’s a difference between doing what works and all the things that I can do that I think will work.  And often I think this is where we get stuck.  We try all the ways that we know of that we think will work and when it doesn’t we give up.  That’s what keeps us stuck.  In my experience yeah I know that I can’t fix everything 100% but I can help make things better.  Make that your goal.  If not then enclosed in the clip below is my favorite sad music.  Because honestly if you are going to be a victim it shouldn’t be to a bad sound track.