I used to know a co-worker who had a child at home along with another one on the way and a husband that sat around in bars all day thinking happy thoughts. He was a big proponent of the secret in fact he wanted to be a motivational speaker. His wife would tell him to go get a job and he would say that no he didn't need to do that because so long as he put out what he wanted into the universe it would provide whatever they needed.
He cited the example of him not needing to get a job as the time when he was once drinking with one of his buddies and someone just offered him a position. That was his proof that the universe would bring to him what he wanted in life as long as he put out there what he wanted and believed that he was going to get it. By the way they were in dire financial straits given that she was the only one working. He stated that she was the reason that things weren't working and he attributed it to her negative mentality (or realism however you want to put it).
The self help industry has done so much to self helpless individuals. It's totally ludicrous to think that you can get everything you ever wanted in life without having to put forth effort. While there are exceptions to the rules I can say with a large degree of certainty that not everyone made it into the 'lucky sperm club'.